Sunday, April 7, 2013

Dissolution Of Marriages By The Law Courts: Right Or Wrong In The Christian Perspective?



Dissolution Of Marriages By The Law Courts: Right Or Wrong In The Christian Perspective?
As a Christian, I have really been worrying over this subject matter. To me, I am of the opinion that, the courts are surely going against the word of God, as it relates to separating legally married people (man & woman), using the courts, another legal entity. Remember, any marriage conducted whether in the church, in the court, or in traditional way and method has a legal backing and God’s approval.

To begin, in Hebrews 13:4, the bible declares “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge”. If marriage is therefore a thing of honour, how then will the courts become the instruments to break this honourable institution? This is left for the courts to answer.
Right now, one may be tempted to say God approves device because, in Matthew 5:31, the bible says "It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement". Yes, this is the word of God but, you will not get the true message until you read the next verse. Let’s go there and read. Matthew 5:32 “But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery”. You see, before you dream of ever divorcing your wife/husband, it has to be under the case of unfaithfulness which ultimately is extra marital affairs. This in essence brings to the fore that, a couple that parted ways in divorcement prepares themselves for adultery, which is a sin against God. Exodus 20:14 says "Thou shalt not commit adultery".
Even at that, Paul declared that, should you ever divorce your husband/wife, be ready to remain UNMARRIED until one partner in the aborted union dies 1Corinthians 7:11 “But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife”. The case of divorcement is never a thing that true Christians should ever consider.
Nevertheless, there were some people who were trying to prove to Jesus that, they were given the go ahead order to divorce their wives  in Matthew 19:7 “They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away”? but, the reaction of Jesus in the matter angered them. Jesus told them that, it was as a result of the stubbornness/hardness of their hearts that Moses gave them that law, which was never so from the beginning Matthew 19:8 “He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so”.
To get better understanding of God against divorcement, the bible in Malachi 2:16 says, “For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously”. Judge, Solicitor, Lawyer, are you therefore considering it fun to preside over cases of divorcements in your courts?

No Man Should Put Asunder What God Had Joined Together
Marriage is usually between two people, who have come of age with high sense of responsibility, and primarily for procreation.
Now, the bible gives explicit clarification on the issue of divorcement. In Matthew 19:6 “Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder”. Also, in the book of Ephesians 5:31,the bible says “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh”. And in Genesis 2:24, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh”. If the bible so declared that, the two married couples are ONE FLESH, why are the courts now dividing this one flesh into two halves, and thereby putting 'asunder' what God had joined together?
Though not a lawyer but, I do know that the court is a legal institution, established by law, to address and correct the injustice in the land, to uphold and defend the constitution of the land, to defend the rights of the oppressed, to settle disputes and resolves lingering crisis, and so on and so forth. These two questions therefore now arise:
1. Is it right and biblical for the law courts to dissolve any marriage that have been consummated under church, court and traditional law?
2. Is it also wrong and unbiblical for the law courts to dissolve any marriage that have been consummated under church, court and traditional law?
Let's hear your views and biblical scriptures to drive home your support or against position over this matter. Thank you.

Some Cases Of Courts Dissolves Marriages In Nigeria:-
1. Court dissolves cleric’s 24-year-old marriage:
An Igando Customary Court in Lagos yesterday dissolved a 24- year-old marriage of a cleric over threat to his life by the wife. “The court has no choice than to dissolve the union between Raheem Sanni and Rosemary, although the woman says she still loves the man”, the court president, Mr. R.I. Adeyeri, held. The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that the dissolution followed a petition by Raheem, 54, who said that Rosemary always threatened his life with dangerous weapons. He also said that Rosemary lacked respect for him and that she denied him care....

2. Court dissolves 22-year-old marriage over infidelity, threat to life:
An Agege Customary Court in Lagos on Wednesday dissolved a 22-year-old marriage between Adewale Oluokun and his wife, Titilayo, noting that the marriage had broken down irretrievably. The Court President, Mr Emmanuel Sokunle said: “Starting from today, you cease to be addressed as husband and wife. “The custody of the children is referred to the Family Court, Ikeja, for final decision. “In the interim, the children will remain with their mother and since she didn’t demand any money from their father, the man is ordered to go his way and maintain the peace. Sokunle also ruled that the respondent should stay away from his former wife and that at no time should he come near her....
3. Drama, As Court Dissolves 21-Yr-Old Marriage:
She wept like a baby as the court said they had ceased to be husband and wife after 21 years of marriage. She denied all the allegations levelled against her including the killing of the junior wife and her child. It all happened at an Agege Grade A Customary Court, Lagos where the husband, Wahab Adekola, had dragged her over alleged fetish acts and nagging....

4. Court dissolves 25-year-old marriage in Lagos:
A 25-year-old marriage between one Mr Kayode Oladepo and Mrs Comfort Oladepo has been dissolved by a Grade ‘B’ Customary Court sitting in Orile-Agege, Lagos State.
The President of the Customary Court, Mr Joseph Adewusi, had ruled that the marriage between two had broken down due to the husband’s unfaithfulness and his drunken attitude. “Starting from today, you seize to be addressed as husband and wife. You shall go your separate ways unmolested. The custody of the children is referred to the Family Court, Ikeja but in the interim, the children should remain with their mother....

5. Courts dissolve 52 marriages in Kwara:
No fewer than 52 marriages were dissolved by courts in Omu-Aran, Kwara State in 2012, the News Agency of Nigeria reports. Some of the reasons adduced for the dissolution included lack of love between the parties, desertion, irresponsibility and uncaring attitude. Other reasons adduced were infidelity, cruelty, battery and drunkenness.
Investigation showed that of the 86 cases filed, 30 traditional marriages were dissolved by the Area Court while the remaining 22 court marriages were dissolved by the Upper Area Court and High Court....

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