Christian Men, Stop Raping Your Wives In The Name Of Sexual Intercourse

CHRISTIAN MEN, STOP RAPING YOUR WIVES IN THE NAME OF SEXUAL INTERCOURSE

ALMIGHTY FATHER, give your children the spirit of understanding to understand what you will tell them here in JESUS name. Amen.

PREAMBLES

In order to fully understand what you are about to read, let’s consider the dictionary meaning of rape.

In the verb definition, rape means “Force (someone) to have sex against their will.”

In the noun definition, rape means “The crime of forcing a woman to submit to sexual intercourse against her will.”

Simply put: Any sexual intercourse against someone’s will is RAPE, whether in a legal marriage or by known rapist and wicked people out there. So beware if you are a rapist unknowingly!

Colossians 3:1 “If ye then be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ sitteth on the right hand of God.

2 Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth.

3 For ye are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God.

4 When Christ, who is our life, shall appear, then shall ye also appear with him in glory.

5 Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, INORDINATE AFFECTION (beyond normal limits), evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry:

6 For which things' sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of disobedience:

7 In the which ye also walked some time, when ye lived in them.”

Men and brethren, it is true that sex is one of the responsibility in a marriage which brings to reality the proclamation of GOD to His creation when He declared “Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth” Genesis 1:28. There can never be any fruitfulness, multiplication and replenishment in the absence of sex in a marriage and therefore, sexual intercourse is provided by GOD for this to come to pass. Even in the animal kingdom, GOD equally embedded sex (mating) in their gene hence He declared “Be fruitful, and multiply, and fill the waters in the seas, and let fowl multiply in the earth” Genesis 1:22. This was further reaffirmed when the old wicked world of Noah’s time was to be destroyed for their wickedness. Genesis 6:19 “And of every living thing of all flesh, two of every sort shalt thou bring into the ark, to keep them alive with thee; they shall be male and female. 20 Of fowls after their kind, and of cattle after their kind, of every creeping thing of the earth after his kind, two of every sort shall come unto thee, to keep them alive.” The essence of male and female as specified by GOD to Noah was for procreation - sexual activity of conceiving and bearing offspring, just as He GOD made them two by two after their kinds in the creation, including Adam and Eve Genesis 1:27.

Having thus said, it is pertinent to note that SEX IS THE PRESERVE OF LEGALLY MARRIED COUPLES ONLY. Legal means whether such a marriage was consummated traditionally, in the church, mosque or court. Therefore, whether you are a Christian or pagan, whenever you indulge in sexual intercourse when you are not married, you are violating the ordinances of GOD 1 Corinthians 6:13 “NOW THE BODY IS NOT FOR FORNICATION” and you will be held guilty for such sin and wickedness irrespective of the belief you held and uphold. “If (ANY MAN) defile the temple of God, him shall God destroy” 1 Corinthians 3:17. Brethren, any man means any man, whether a supposed Christian or a pagan. Fornication and or adultery is the language used to describe people that involves themselves in sexual intercourse when they are not married or when they involved themselves in extra sexual intercourse outside their matrimony if they are legally married. Therefore, if you are involved in any sexual activities as an unmarried person, please stop, repent, surrender your life to JESUS and plead unto GOD for mercy because the consequences of your actions is damnation. Romans 6:23 “FOR THE WAGES OF SIN (as committed by ANY ONE whether supposed Christians and non-Christians alike) IS DEATH; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” Ezekiel 18:4 “Behold, ALL SOULS (supposed Christians and non-Christians alike) are mine; as the soul of the father, so also the soul of the son is mine: THE SOUL (whether a Christian or a pagan) THAT SINNETH, IT SHALL DIE.”

 To further affirm that sex is the preserve of married couples only, the Bible has this to say. “MARRIAGE IS HONOURABLE IN ALL (when purity is the order), AND THE BED UNDEFILED (without any premarital sex with your husband/wife to be or any other person for that matter; or post marital sex out of your marriage union): BUT WHOREMONGERS (a prostitute's customer or a pimp who procures whores) AND ADULTERERS (people who commits adultery or fornication) GOD WILL JUDGE.” Hebrews 13:4. Please, you sex worker called prostitute, and you unmarried boys/girls in boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, and of course you married couples having extra sexual affairs outside your homes, stop it now and repent from it immediately. You people are playing with unquenchable fire. Enough said already regarding people involving in sexual activities illegally! Mark 9:43 “And if thy hand offend thee, cut it off: it is better for thee to enter into life maimed, than having two hands to go into hell, into the fire that never shall be quenched:  44 WHERE THEIR WORM DIETH NOT, AND THE FIRE IS NOT QUENCHED. 45 And if thy foot offend thee, cut it off: it is better for thee to enter halt into life, than having two feet to be cast into hell, into the fire that never shall be quenched: 46 WHERE THEIR WORM DIETH NOT, AND THE FIRE IS NOT QUENCHED. 47 And if thine eye offend thee, pluck it out: it is better for thee to enter into the kingdom of God with one eye, than having two eyes to be cast into hell fire: 48 WHERE THEIR WORM DIETH NOT, AND THE FIRE IS NOT QUENCHED. 49 For EVERY ONE (Christians and non-Christians alike) shall be salted with fire, and every sacrifice shall be salted with salt.”

Therefore, if you are a legally married couple, please stop raping your spouse. Mutual agreement and understanding is required in sexual intercourse. To the Christian married couple, you should understand that sex is NOT the bedrock of the family tie but CHRIST Ephesians 5:23. You shouldn’t see sex in marriage as the yardstick to measure love or submission. “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God” is the admonition of the Bible to us Ephesians 5:21. If you are a married couple that has the fear of GOD in your home, you will not involve yourselves in raping each other in the name of sex. There is no time frame spelt out in the scriptures for sexual intercourse in marriage, but there are times the Bible says sex should be avoided if possible.

A. During menstrual period of the woman.

Although the Bible does not rule out sexual intercourse within this period completely, but looking at the requirement of the law for cleansing (remember we are now under grace), I think it is an idea thing for any reasonable man to wait for his wife to finish her menstrual period before resuming sexual activities. This is my counsel. Leviticus 15: 19 “And if a woman have an issue, and her issue in her flesh be blood, she shall be put apart seven days: and whosoever toucheth her shall be unclean until the even. 20 And every thing that she lieth upon in her separation shall be unclean: every thing also that she sitteth upon shall be unclean. 21 And whosoever toucheth her bed shall wash his clothes, and bathe himself in water, and be unclean until the even. 22 And whosoever toucheth any thing that she sat upon shall wash his clothes, and bathe himself in water, and be unclean until the even. 23 And if it be on her bed, or on any thing whereon she sitteth, when he toucheth it, he shall be unclean until the even. 24 AND IF ANY MAN LIE (have sex) WITH HER AT ALL, and her flowers be upon him, he shall be unclean seven days; and all the bed whereon he lieth shall be unclean.” By reason of grace, our wives today cook for us, we touch each other, use things together and sleep on the same bed during their menstrual period. Thank GOD for GRACE. Hallelujah!

B. During fasting and prayer.

During a short period of fasting and prayer as agreed by the couples and not as it may be announced by the church authority, it is recommended biblically to abstain from any sexual intercourse. 1 Corinthians 7:5 “Defraud ye not one the other, EXCEPT IT BE WITH CONSENT FOR A TIME, THAT YE MAY GIVE YOURSELVES TO FASTING AND PRAYER; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.” A maximum of three days of dry fasting and prayers should be idea here during which no sex should be involved. However, during lengthen period of fasting and prayer with daily breakage as may be organised by your church authority, please don’t deny yourselves sex after breaking of the fast. This is my counsel.

AVOIDING RAPE IN MARRIAGE

Although men are usually at fault in this angle of raping their wives, but often times, it is the women that do create the room for such things to happen in their marriage. Sexual intercourse require mutual trust and understanding between the two couples, but when the woman starts making unnecessary excuses whenever her husband advanced towards her for sex, an impatient man may be forced at this point to force the wife into sexual submission against her will. Some women show over spirituality in handling their sexual affairs and at times, their husbands are often left in the cold all alone in the house with the excuses of having 7 days ‘night vigil’ in their church. Woman, nobody stops you from undergoing night vigil in your church, but it shouldn’t be at the expense of your marriage at all, and you will surely have nothing to justify this act.

Therefore, man, if your attempts to have sex with your wife failed as a result of her persistent complain of tiredness and other funny excuses, threaten her that you are reporting her to her pastor, and because most women honour their pastors above their husbands today (this is very unfortunate), she will fall down on her knees begging you because she wouldn’t want her sex life to talked about elsewhere. She will naturally come down from the high elevation she had placed herself and begin to reason with you mutually. Even if she is not the type that likes sex as such, it shouldn’t be the barrier that will propel rape to happen to her in her matrimony by her own husband. Take heed and learn. However, you man shouldn’t descend on your wife violently if she objected to your sexual advances, as this will amount to raping her. Listen to her, and talk it out with her with love and before you know it, she will be the one inviting you herself. The Christian home is a practical home because love is practical.

MY COUNSEL TO THE MAN

Man, it is not only when you force your wife to have sex with her that you rape her, most of you are also into sexual perversion in your homes. You force your wife into ungodly sexual positions; force her into performing ‘dirty practices’ to appease your sexual lust even in your homes. This is a great wickedness in the sight of GOD. Man, never you copy the acts of the heathen in your sexual affairs with your wife. Remember, you are not the owner of your body, but GOD is 1 Corinthians 6:12-20, and make sure you use your body to the glory of GOD even during sexual intercourse with your wife. Romans 12:1 “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. 2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”

MY COUNSEL TO THE WOMAN

Woman, stop dictating to your husband on when he should have sex with you. Even if you are not in the mood when he approaches, calmly and warmly embrace him and discuss any matter that may be responsible for your action at that time, reason it together and I bet you, you will win him very shortly to start seeing things with you. Don’t lie to your husband because you don’t want sex at that material time, hoping you know the consequences of lying. Hence the Bible says “LIE NOT ONE TO ANOTHER, seeing that ye have put off the old man with his deeds” Colossians 3:9.

In conclusion, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it” Ephesians 5:25. Husband, will you rape the wife you love? How do you see and react to rape cases flying around our world today? Do you want GOD to see you as a rapist? How much protection have you given this wife of your youth against rape even by yourself? The LORD is watching you.

“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord” Colossians 3:18. Woman, how submissive are you to your husband? Are you the one initiating your raping by your own husband? Your unending excuses and tiredness you always present to your husband, are they fit for the LORD? The respect and obedience you often accord your pastor, do you have such for your husband at home? The LORD is watching you.

1 Thessalonians 4:1 “Furthermore then we beseech you, brethren, and exhort you by the Lord Jesus, that as ye have received of us how ye ought to walk and to please God, so ye would abound more and more. 2 For ye know what commandments we gave you by the Lord Jesus. 3 FOR THIS IS THE WILL OF GOD, EVEN YOUR SANCTIFICATION, THAT YE SHOULD ABSTAIN FROM FORNICATION: 4 THAT EVERY ONE OF YOU SHOULD KNOW HOW TO POSSESS HIS VESSEL IN SANCTIFICATION AND HONOUR; 5 NOT IN THE LUST OF CONCUPISCENCE, EVEN AS THE GENTILES WHICH KNOW NOT GOD: 6 That no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. 7 For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness. 8 He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us his holy Spirit.

1 Corinthians 14: 40 “Let all things be done decently and in order.”

Shalom!